I started coaching in 2016 became a Certified Professional Coach. My training program was done with IPEC and is approved by the International Coaching Federation (ICF) and my training consisted of over 220 hours and a verbal competency test.
In high school I already knew the main thing I wanted most in life was to have a family of my own, a wife, children and to be a great husband and father. I didn’t know what I wanted as a career to support a family and could never commit to anything for fear of failure. In my early 20’s, not having much direction on what to do with my life, I didn’t do well in school as I had no career goal. I took a job bussing tables and quickly moved up to a server where I spent about 7 years without working towards a future or goal. Playing video games, going out drinking, hiking, and poor quality relationships consumed most of those years.
Back in high school I imagined I would have a career and start having kids in my mid to late 20’s, now here I was at 28 years old with no career, no wife or even a healthy relationship, and no children. I was very frustrated and mad at myself for where my life was at. I decided I needed to make changes and do things I was not comfortable with. I decided I had enough of time wasting and was determined to get a career for financial security which I figured would help with my other goals of having a family whenever that happened. There was an opportunity for management training where I worked, so I went for it and got it. After training, I proved my determination and capabilities which allowed me to apply for salary management positions within the company. I secured a position at the first location I applied to finally accomplished obtaining a career. It was very satisfying feeling, and I will never forget it because it set into motion everything else.
By age 30 I met my wife and not long after that was when I was introduced to Life Coaching. When I found out what Life Coaching was, I knew it was for something I was going to do. In 2016 I found a great coaching program and went all in, completed my training about 14 months later and have been coaching ever since then. In 2018 my wife and I had our first child. We quickly realized the quality of life working food and beverage management was not very ideal for me to be involved with the family with any consistency. I felt like I was missing out on bonding with my new family. I ended up leaving my budding food and beverage career and decided to take a pay cut for a better work/life balance managing at a gym so I could be more involved with my wife and daughter and to do something I felt more aligned with as a career.
The most important part of my family, my wife Alison, my daughter Sena, and our dog Rex. Southern California is where I was born and raised. Los Angeles county is where I have lived my whole life until moving to Massachusetts in 2020 where my wife’s family lives. I enjoy the outdoors, and spending time with loved ones. The person I enjoy spending most of my time with is my wife Alison, who is truly my partner, best friend, and love of my life. We have a beautiful daughter who is a real goofball and has more energy than the energizer bunny. Our dog Rex is on high alert dealing with a toddler and being the best family bodyguard.
Before working on myself and meeting my wife, I was self-conscious, lacked confidence, indecisive, procrastinated, stressed, worried and was in several toxic and unhealthy relationships, until it got so bad, I finally woke up and I made the decision to work on myself, change my mentality, change my habits, and ultimately take my life to another level, to better my life. During my last relationship I had brief awakenings. One allowed me to finally step up and pursue a management career which was not hard to achieve once my mentality changed where I was driven and determined to do so. My work experience or performance did not change for me to achieve the life changing promotion, it was purely determination, drive, and persistence that did it.
Becoming a husband itself did not seem difficult to me. But adding the role of father brought me a whole new ballgame. Here are some of the struggles I have had and overcome since having our first child.
- Lack of attention from partner
- Lack of quality time with partner
- Lack of personal space to do what I want
- Lack of work/life balance
- Having someone dependent on you 24/7
Through communication, my wife and I constantly work together to adjust and make sure we both get what we need. And as life goes on and changes, new things come up, so we must stay sharp. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it all 🙂